As a divorce attorney who has been practicing law for more than 25 years, I’ve come to work with many people whose marriages did not end up working out. During my time helping clients settle their divorces, I have come to find that the things listed below are essential if you want your marriage to succeed. In this blog, we talk about 4 keys to a happy and successful marriage.
Key 1: Same Point of View
One thing I’ve noticed about the couples who last is that they tend to have similar points of view on important subjects that will impact their relationship. Marry someone who views the world the same way you do. You won’t be able to change your spouse into you, no matter how hard you try. If your approach towards problems, issues, and other things in general is completely opposite from your spouse’s, it is likely that it will be more difficult for the two of you to resolve disagreements. However, if you both approach issues the same way and have basically the same philosophy on life, you will have less frowns and more smiles throughout your marriage.
Key 2: Pick Your Battles
Knowing when to pursue an argument and when to take a step back is a key aspect of working towards a successful marriage. Choose your battles wisely and remember that no one is perfect. No matter who you choose to marry, there will always be things that your spouse does that you don’t love. Learn how to make the conscious decision to let some of those things go, just as long as your spouse’s bad habits do not affect your health or safety.
Key 3: Never Fight In Front of the Kids
If you have children, arguments are bound to come up regarding their behavior and upbringing. However, never argue about these things with your spouse in front of your children. Establish a rule between you and your spouse that if you are having a problem with one of your children, the two of you will discuss that problem outside of the child’s presence.
Key 4: Listen
One of the best ways you can show your spouse that you care about them is to really listen to what they are saying whenever you have a conversation. When you interrupt or walk away while your spouse is trying to talk to you, you’re sending the message that what they say or think is not important to you. Really listening to what your spouse is saying about their feelings shows that you care and that your spouse’s needs are important to you.
Applying these 4 keys can help ensure you and your spouse have a successful marriage.
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